They are powerful sparks of insight.

For a long time I avoided uncomfortable feelings in every way I could.

Eating, not eating, exercising excessively, partying irresponsibly, following the rules, creating busywork…the list goes on.

It seemed to work. Until it didn’t. Truthfully, it never worked but I tricked myself into believing that it did for years.

It was easy to con myself because the uncomfortable feelings would pass. At least they would shift into something I was less resistant to or terrified of.

It was like stuffing the dirty laundry into the closet and shutting the door, or stacking unopened bills neatly in a pile and forgetting about them.

It appeared to lessen the mess, but really it just allowed the problem to get worse without me noticing.

Eventually I was sick of failing to eradicate my feelings so I decided to feel them. 

It was awful.

It was also freeing.

I learned that I could take it. My feelings didn’t crush me, even when I felt sure that they would.

As time passed I stopped surviving my feelings and started really paying attention to them.

Clearly they were happening for a reason. What was it? What could I learn from them? Why did certain feelings happen at certain times, and why did a few feelings bother me so much more than others?

Approaching my feelings with curiosity instead of judgment or dread allowed me to see that often the uncomfortable feelings were my body and mind trying to allow space for my intuition to shine through. 

Sitting with the feelings and listening to my own inner knowing was what I needed to do.

It was hard at first, because often it meant that I needed to take action in a way that would disrupt my life, my habits, or my role in some type of relationship.

Each time the discomfort of taking action in response to my intuition created more ease in my life in the long run. 

Does this resonate with you?

Have you been trying to avoid or transform your uncomfortable feelings?

Or, have you learned to sit with them?

Almost daily I get emails or Facebook messages from people who are in the process of learning to feel their feelings – without fear or judgment. They tell me how it’s hard and how it’s changing their lives.

It is an honor to hold space for them and offer them tools and insights.

It can be a really scary process when you feel alone in it. Please know that you are not. 

You are brave and it is worth the discomfort.

When we avoid or numb the uncomfortable feelings we kill our chances of deeply experiencing the feelings we want to feel.. When we open up to really feeling our feelings we begin to feel the good stuff so much more.

I want that joy, love, excitement, happiness, ease, and enjoyment for you.

I hope you want it for yourself.

Please reach out anytime. I’m cheering for you and in your corner.

If you have a friend or loved one who could use permission or encouragement to start feeling and listening to the inner wisdom of intuition please share this blog with them. 

Much love,

Katie