Ask for what you need.

And…ask others what they need.

Today has been one of those days in which I had many conversations about completely unrelated topics – but they were all essentially about the same thing. Communication.

Specifically, communication in which we ask for what we need and ask others for what they need.

I do know a few psychic intuitives, but for the majority of us asking is key to really knowing how another person is feeling and how to best relate to them.

This goes for our relationships with romantic partners, friends, coworkers, bosses, kids, teachers, clients, and our communication with the Universe (or God or any higher power that you like to communicate with.)

If we are not clear in our asking, we cannot expect to get what we need or want. 

If we are not asking at all, then we surely will not get what we want.

What we will get is a whole lot of resentment, frustration and anger as we find ourselves in complicated uncomfortable situations because we have been “needing” something and hoping for others to simply notice our need and fill the void.

It is important to remember that each person comes into an interaction with his or her own perception of life and the specific situation.

Sometimes what we feel is the best way to help is not what the person in need really needs.

A few year ago I heard one of my teachers, David Life, talking about yoga as global service. There are a few organizations that go around the world teaching yoga to disadvantaged populations.

He told a story about how he was in Africa with one such organization for a short time. What he noticed was that the people they were “helping” didn’t need yoga. They needed food and water and medical care. They needed money.

Sure, yoga could offer some benefit to the people, but it wasn’t what they really needed.

When it comes to our own lives, when we are the ones needing something, it can be super hard to ask for exactly what we need.

To ask for what we need we must be cultivate the strength to be vulnerable. 

I could write about how important it is to cultivate the strength of vulnerability, but instead I am going to direct you to the amazing Brene Brown.

Please watch this video and if possible buy her book Daring Greatly or get it from the library.

I cannot recommend her book enough. It is amazing and could be a game changer for you. It has been for me and many of my students.

So what do you need?

If there is something that you are needing and you feel that I could help you, please ask.

Leave a comment below and let me know.

I would be honored to help if I can.

Much love,

Katie

P.S. As Maya Angelou says “Ask for what you want and be prepared to get it.”